We discussed in the lesson on communication how a man and his wife should share ideas, feelings, plans, etc.; this is one way that they become ‘one’. In the lesson on conflict resolution, we talked about how a man and wife should have no secrets between them; this is another way that they become ‘one’. Moses added an interesting comment after this story of the creation of the woman; he said:
The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:25)
Of course, these two people were the only ones on earth. However, they were not ashamed (before they sinned) even in the presence of God. They were like innocent children who feel no shame in being naked. This demonstrates oneness. For a husband and his wife to be naked in each other’s presence is not shameful; in fact, it is a beautiful part of the marital relationship. A man enjoys seeing his wife’s body, and the wife should allow him to see her frequently. We learned in the chapter on sex that men are stimulated by sight; therefore, wives who allow their husbands to see their naked bodies are helping their husbands to stay faithful. It is sinful for the husband to view other ladies’ bodies, but it is a beautiful thing for him to see his wife and rejoice in her body.
Women also enjoy seeing their husband’s bodies. I once heard of a man who never allowed his wife to see him naked. He is depriving her of her right (1 Corinthians 7:4), and he is missing much joy and excitement he should be having in the sexual relationship with his wife.
This verse, Genesis 2:25, may also signify that a husband and wife should have no secrets between them. They are completely open and totally honest with each other, having no fear or shame. A husband and wife should know each other intimately and completely. Sit down and talk to one another about yourselves; let your partner know who you really are inside and get to know your partner totally; ask questions and give honest, full answers. This will help your intimacy to grow into a true oneness. This might not be easy if you’ve been used to keeping secrets, so go slowly; maybe share one new thing about yourself with your partner this week, then next week or next month, share something else, and vice versa. You may have to work through some issues that trouble you, but remember, these issues and the way you settle them can bring you even closer.